One of my favorite contemporary authors, Gabriel Garcia Marquez, who has written a book, also as his only autobiography, Living To Tell The Tale. Poverty and optimism, confusion and perseverance,decadence and madness, all just as the eternal poetic light shines through his memories and words. He was telling us who he really was by his own way, writing the stories. In my opinion，the different experiences of everyone constitute their various and precious stories, and of course that some of the unique stories worth being recorded and communicated. With them, they could be their own legend. Everybody is telling their own stories in their way, I am no exception. From now on, you have fallen into Naomi’s wonderland, please enjoy my stories.
I have been fascinated by reading books since childhood. I am an undisturbed girl who cannot live without books. It is a bit exaggerated to describe that, reading is as important to me as breathing. When I was a little girl, I read multifarious books, from encyclopedias to children’s magazines, from fairy tales to myths, from children’s literature to poetry collections. Nowadays, I still read many different types of books. Harry Potter by Rowling was the most profound book that accompanied my adolescence. And Then There Were None written by Agatha Christie took me into the world of detective books. There are so many books that I can enjoy reading as ever, The Moon and Sixpence by Maugham, The Interpretation of Dreams by Freud, Journey Under The Midnight sun by Higashino Keigo, 1Q84 by Murakami Haruki, The Story In Sahara by San Mao and so on.
The influences of my reading experiences are not immediate, but subtle. I found that I still have the same kind of strong curiosity as a child. I realized that the more I read, the more I understand how short-sighted I am, and how less I could figure out the known and unknown. In my experience, I used to read plenty of literature and novels, and someday after I visited the planetarium while traveling, I began to try reading astronomical books because I was so inquisitive about the universe. This trend continues,therefore, I tried out reading books about psychology, economics, philosophy, so the more I read, the more I perceive my shallowness.
Life is short, but the problems that all humans face are endless. I’m not intending to solve all those problems because I am unable, but perhaps I will try to make an effort. I just wonder the truth of something all the while. When I learn something from the book that I never heard about, or a fact that I never knew, the sense of joy is beyond words.
However, I firmly believe that it is difficult for a man without inputting continually at present to output in the future. I would like to keep the habit of reading every single day, till the end of my life.
Everybody gets highlight points, there is no exception to me. Gentleness and empathy are my own superpower, which are not from my nature, but my particular experiences. I know someone is definitely skeptical of my cognition. Is gentleness a type of superpower? I would say, yes, absolutely.
Gentleness is not being weak and flabby, not just behaving softly like a breeze. On the contrary,gentleness is the externalization of a powerful innermost being. Gentleness is a kind of ability which can digest negative emotions, as major as a mentality and an optimistic attitude that can promote understanding others with the greatest kindness. It can resist all the hardships of the world.
When I was in the freshman year in high school, I went to the hospital for a routine check-up. I was accidentally found in my blood report that I had juvenile diabetes. The doctor told me that my condition was bad, and I needed to be hospitalized immediately. I suddenly collapsed, and the doctor also told me that the disease has not been cured so far. In the rest of my life, I have to treat it by injecting insulin before each meal to maintain stable blood sugar, and always control the food intake to prevent complications, such as severely causing organ disease or even death.
When I really knew about my disease, my whole world was full of disorderliness and darkness, and I thought I was hopeless. I became dumb and taciturn. My family was very worried about me. I was in deep pain, and I was also diagnosed with moderate depression by the psychologist.
But the nurse who took special care of me was extremely patient. I did not think she was an ordinary nurse. She would not only take care of my pathological needs，but also enlighten me every day. What impressed me most was a conversation between us at one night,
She said, “Have you ever thought about that you are actually a star in the sky? And every star glows. “
I asked her why I do not shine as a star,
“In reality, when each star falls on earth, as human beings, we have to go through various kinds of suffering and wounds. These pains make us temporarily unable to emit light. You are so lucky to be the chosen one on the world, and you should cherish this trip, as significant as those who love you and you love. They are waiting for your company on the life journey.
Please trust me, do not give up any chance, because you are excellent, hang on, this illness would only become your future armor, everything will be so wonderful tomorrow!”
After this conversation, I was so moved and touched by the nurse’s persistence with tenderness and thoughtfulness. I suddenly realized that my illness was no big deal at all, and I got my backups and dreams. It was the new beginning of my life. I still got a lot of books that I was eager to read. I had to stick to it! Later, I cooperated with the treatment positively, and my depression was healed, and I was discharged from the hospital shortly afterwards. Through the long-term treatment, my condition has shown signs of improvement so far.
What changed my life was the nurse’s gentleness, which was a very warm force. I felt tenderly treated by all the world. This specific experience actually has transformed to my own armor. Also, I cognized that only those who know the pain in the world can be truly gentle to others. It was most valuable for refreshing my definition of gentleness, which is the love of life, the courage to accept the true and sick myself, the frankness of past determination and the character of understanding and tolerance. Some tribulations do not necessarily make you stronger, but they make you much gentler and more tolerant.
Next, empathy is my superpower as well, which are not totally from my nature, but from the cultivation of people around me. Empathy is a concept proposed by Rogers, an American psychologist. It originally meant the ability of a counselor to experience the inner world of others.
Empathy is very different from sympathy. On the surface, it seems like it is the origin of helping others. Sympathy is a type of narcissism, and empathy is an ability. People who sympathize with someone would find someone pathetic, so they usually want them to be optimistic. Empathy is just the opposite, it is a process of establishing a link between minds.
In my experience, I can understand every inexplicable emotion, and accept lots of existing values without obstacles, but sometimes I feel I have a bit crossed the line. I can easily interpret the mental state of others who are communicating with me and talk with them as the emotional orientation. Most of them feel much better by chatting with me.
Therefore，I gradually started to become a confidant of my friends around me, their tree holes and spirit lodge, and their intimate who opened their hearts. A friend of mine said that I was unlike the other friends who she had talked to. It was like when she had fallen into a black hole, others would only ask her why she did not climb up at the first time. But I would climb down this deep hole and accompany her through this darkness. Whereupon，I do not need to talk so much when I comfort my friends. I would avoid judging them and intending to change their opinions easily.
I am not only just good at understanding the inner world of human beings, but also other creatures. I have been involved in stray cats and dogs rescue since elementary school. I also adopted a stray cat and a stray dog after I moved out of campus. I always advocate adoption instead of purchasing.
Every time I see homeless cats and dogs outdoors, I feel so unwell and cannot help getting some food for them. During the recent outbreak，I could not go out but I insist feeding the kittens every day in our community.
However, strong empathy has its shortcomings，I cannot be too addicted to the emotions of others and need to have restrictions. Sometimes I watched the particularly touching movies like Closer or The Crucible，I would be stuck in the mood of the characters for a few days. Therefore, timing is also very essential. For me, not all conditions need my empathy at all times.
Last but not the least, cuisine is also one of my hobbies. I am enthusiastic about cooking counter meal for breakfast and lunch. I really enjoy the process from selecting fresh ingredients in the supermarket to accomplishing a dish. I also often cook for family and friends. Their approval of the dishes will make me delighted and pleasant.
For all of these, I have an ultimate dream about managing a brunch cafe shop in a tranquil city. I hope a wall of book shelves will be part of the brunch café shop，which area can be used to borrow and read books for guests. And the tableware and decoration in the coffee shop are all collected from my travels around the world. Another area inside the coffee shop is where I work as a psychological consultant.
I know it is unpractical to consider the details of my dream, but it is a part of me. I would keep working hard to achieve it.
This is me, a 21-year-old girl with gentleness and empathy, who loves reading and cooking deeply,meanwhile she is trying her best to fulfill her dream.
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