I have heard before that a good way to verify the authenticity of a relationship is to go on a trip with each other. In the summer vacation of 2018, I had the same spare time as my boyfriend’s, by the way, his name is Jimmy. We decided to celebrate our 4th anniversary by arranging a trip to Thailand.
When we did the previous strategy, we picked Lanta Island, the southernmost island in Thailand. We preferred niche places rather than tourist destinations for crowds, therefore, we did not choose the Phuket and Koh Samui. Jimmy’s spoken English was average, and he was not very willing to speak with others in English, so when we needed to communicate with others during this trip, it was all my business, and he was responsible for carrying the luggage and others.
We flew from Hong Kong to Bangkok, and then flew to Lanta after spending one night in Bangkok. We booked a small villa by the sea, and there was a chartered car to pick us up at the airport. The weather was great that day, and the villa we booked was also very nice. We could enjoy the excellent sea views in the balcony, and there was a delicate swimming pool in the courtyard.
It was about noon when we arrived at the villa. After lunch, we took a nap and woke up at dusk. I wanted to go outside for a good meal and enjoy the scenery along the path. When I made this suggestion to Jimmy, he was opposed to me. He said that he was still tired of running around for this day. He suggested ordering a meal in the villa and continued resting. He would like to go out on the next day. In my opinion, I had taken a nap in the afternoon and it was enough. Why should we waste time and stay in the room, rather than just go out for views during travelling? We quarreled with each other and refused to give in. Although I really yearned for going out, I did not dare to go by myself. I had to compromise and ordered a meal in the room sullenly. After dinner, I decided to take a rest in the other room in the villa, I was still moody, and all my thoughts ran wild.
The next day I naturally woke up at about 9 and I was still stunned but found that there was a bunch of flowers and a card beside me. There were some words of apology by Jimmy on the card. I rubbed my eyes and could not realize what was going on, suddenly I heard the honk coming from outside. I went to the front door and saw Jimmy was on a motorcycle, and there was a parked pink motorcycle next to him. He smiled brightly and said, please forgot about yesterday and stop being angry. And he suggested that we should go out for a ride with the motorcycles he rented and also have a rich breakfast on this sunny day. I was very surprised, because Jimmy has always been an introvert, plus he was not very willing to communicate with others in English, it was unbelievable that he rented the motorcycles and bought flowers on his own. I felt touched, then I quickly got changed and started a pleasant day with Jimmy.
We went to a nice restaurant for breakfast by motorcycle, beside another pretty beach. The weather was particularly good, so as our moods. I suddenly relieved a lot and found that a good relationship needed more understandings and communications than just focusing on one’s interest. In the evening we went to a famous hilltop restaurant. We had booked a few weeks ago and enjoyed the buffet with sunset.
We also went sightseeing in different places in that week. We visited a special cliff restaurant，watched the monkeys in a wild area, surfed by the sea and tasted many kinds of mango glutinous rice from various restaurants. We bought coffee in 711 every day there. Jimmy took good care of me during this trip, and I learned more about understanding. We didn’t quarrel anymore, and we got along better than before. This trip left us with very impressive memories and strengthened our relationship.
I always considered that deciding with whom to travel is much more important than where to travel. Although the place of travel determines the scenery, the travel with whom affects the way along. Just like enjoying a sunset, we would feel differently with different people. Perhaps this is one of the meanings of travel. A relationship cannot avoid frictions and conflicts, but the most important thing is how to solve together.
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